THE LIE FEAR TELLS

Fear arrives in disguise long before we recognize its footsteps. It slips in through old memories, stray thoughts, and sudden shadows, wearing the face of a future that has not happened and speaking with the authority of a truth it never earned. When fear catches us off guard, we treat it as prophecy. When we slow down long enough to listen, we realize fear often tells us more about our breathing than our destiny.

Most of what we call fear begins as a sensation, a tightening in the chest or a shift in the breath that the mind rushes to interpret. A noise in the bushes becomes danger, a delayed reply becomes rejection, an unfamiliar challenge becomes a script of inevitable failure. The body sends a whisper; the mind writes a novel. And in that gap—between sensation and story—fear finds its power.

I have learned, slowly and sometimes stubbornly, that fear grows wildest in the absence of attention. When I react too quickly, fear plays puppeteer. When I pause, even for a single breath, fear loses the illusion of control. The breath steadies, the ground returns, the moment expands. Much like a novice attacker in sparring who swings too hard and too fast, fear telegraphs everything when you stop flinching at its first move. It lunges wide, hoping the surprise will overwhelm you. But if you root your stance, if you let your breath settle into your belly, the punch reveals its beginner quality. You see openings you could not see before. You see the difference between danger and anticipation.

Humor helps too—not the forced laughter we use to avoid discomfort, but the low, honest laugh that rises from recognizing how dramatic our minds can be. A laugh loosens the shoulders. A laugh signals safety. A laugh reminds you that fear does not hold the final word unless you surrender the sentence to it. Humor works as a soft blade, not to cut fear down, but to cut through the theatrical costume fear wears when it wants to look larger than life.

With time, fear stops appearing as an enemy and starts revealing itself as a form of weather—real enough to register, fleeting enough to pass. Some days feel overcast, heavy with low pressure inside the chest. Other days feel clear, the horizon open and wide. But no matter what fear predicts, it behaves like weather: it moves, it changes, and it rarely speaks for the entire sky.

The shift came for me when I stopped asking, “Why do I feel this way?” and started asking, “What exactly did I feel first?” The moment I name the physical sensation—the warmth rising in the sternum, the quickening of breath, the narrowing of attention—the story begins to lose its grip. Sensations belong to the body. The story belongs to the imagination. And the imagination loves exaggeration the way fire loves dry leaves.

Fear dissolves the moment our awareness grows brighter than the story fear tells.

Fear expands most aggressively in the absence of evidence. Once I ask fear to “show the receipts,” most of its arguments crumble. Prediction dissolves into possibility; possibility dissolves into choice. That small moment of clarity—of separating what happened from what might happen—turns fear from a ruler into a messenger. And messages, once heard, rarely need to shout.

What helps me now is simple: I acknowledge the sensation, breathe into the space it tries to occupy, shift my stance—even a literal shift helps—and choose one grounding act. Sometimes I laugh. Sometimes I move. Sometimes I create. Sometimes I call someone who reminds me of the larger world beyond the narrow tunnel fear wants me to crawl through. Each choice redirects the energy fear tries to monopolize. Each choice reminds me that presence remains more powerful than prediction.

Fear dissolves the moment our awareness grows brighter than the story fear tells. Fog does not leave the field because the fog decides to retreat; it leaves because light rises.

And every one of us carries light, even when we forget the switch exists.

Stay inspired & inspirational.

— Sifu Khonsura A. Wilson